It’s really okay for there to be times when you stop putting everyone else first and take time for self-care.
How many years, or even decades have you spent focusing on everyone else and putting your needs on the back burner? Is there a constant voice in your head telling you 'the cleaning needs to be done', 'the kids need looking after', or 'the fridge and pantry need to be restocked'? Or perhaps on top of all of that you are also spending any spare time working in your profession.
It's no wonder that by the end of each day, we often don't have the fuel left to dedicate even an hour to ourselves and the interests and aspirations that we once used to have.
Maybe you used to play tennis, make jigsaw puzzles, or even paint. Then life and all the busyness that comes with it took over and now you can hardly remember the last time you indulged in your hobbies.
I know how you feel. I've been there.
I felt like there was not enough time. Taking time for myself made me feel guilty, and selfish. The more I gave to those around me and the more caring I was, the more I felt the need to have just a bit of quality time to myself. Was I asking for too much?
Creating more personal time tops the list of desires many people have, but with work, partner or family time and social calls all demanding our attention, we are lucky to find an hour a day of uninterrupted, relaxing "me" time. It's challenging at best.
The first step for me was to learn to believe that "me" time is not something I should feel guilty about. I had to reframe in my mind that activities for myself that would help me relax, refocus and recharge were essential to my well-being. And when I did that I would come back to my responsibilities with greater focus, commitment and enjoyment (and hopefully no regrets and resentment towards others).
We all know what it feels like to keep going and going and going and going until the smallest trigger sends us spiralling into a meltdown. (Not fun for you, or your family, is it? It wasn't for me). Mental exhaustion and that feeling of overwhelm is something I now know can be prevented if you catch it in it's tracks and you can shake off the guilt by reprioritising activities in your day-to-day schedule to include things that help you relax, refocus and recharge.
You may often feel like you are the only one feeling this way, but you are not. I also know that whilst this is a behavioural pattern common in women, there are plenty of men out there who feel the same. Without time to ourselves, we often lose sight of what's important to us, and risk losing that spark in our personalities we once had. But I want you to know you can find that spark again. You just need to know how it can be done.
You not only deserve this time, but you need it for your own well-being. Taking time to yourself helps you, and also helps your family. Can you add that to your list of motivators?
How many times have you heard, 'there's a reason why on airplanes they tell you to put your oxygen mask on first before helping others'. If you continue to neglect yourself, you aren't going to be the best version of yourself around others.
If you have ever wished you had more time to yourself then first commit to carving it into your schedule. Here are some ways I think you can get on the right path for a bit of guilt-free self-indulgence, keeping in mind all the while that it's for the greater good:
Communicate by speaking up
Let the family know that you are taking a bit of a 'me' time, to recharge your batteries.
Learn to say 'no'
Take a deep breath and say 'no' when a task can be handled by someone else. Re-evaluate things you currently do that don't align with your goals.
Find a way to include the family
If you don't want to sacrifice family time, find a way to include your family in your recreational activities
specifically, Paint Pouring Workshops
To begin, find just one morning where you can book a Paint Pouring Workshop before making any long term commitments. Get back into your passions, hobbies and activities that used to help you relax and rejuvenate.
I want this to help you in the way it has helped me because I was once like you and the hundreds of other people who have shared with me that they had been putting their needs on the back burner for too long. I hope you tell that voice in your head that 'enough is enough' and take that first step on the right path for all important self-care because I know that one day, you'll thank yourself for it!
You may be thinking I'm going to suggest creating time for meditation, yoga, a nap, or a relaxing massage. Sure, all those things are part of self-care, but I want to share something that I think will have a longer lasting therapeutic effect on your well-being... art.
Art as Meditation
Don't take my word on it. Consider this excerpt from an article in Fulfillment Daily: Daily Science-Backed News for a Happier Life, founded by Stanford University psychologist Emma Seppala, who is also Associate Director of the Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education at Stanford’s School of Medicine.
Many of us have heard about the benefits of meditation, but sometimes find it hard to do. Fewer of us know about the profound benefits of artistic expression. Creating art, however, is another way to access a meditative state of mind and the profound healing it brings.
“Art is a guarantee to sanity,” said Louise Bourgeois, a French-American artist who died in 2010 at the age of 98. She even went on to add, “…This is the most important thing I have said.” For Bourgeois, art — making art— was a tool for coping with overwhelming emotion. She says she remembers making small sculptures out of bread crumbs at the dinner table when she was a little girl – as a way of dealing with her dominating father. Art was more than an escape – it kept her sane.
Art therapy has a healing effect for a variety of ailments, including depression, trauma and illness and is effective across age, gender or ethnicity. In a recent study of cancer patients, an art therapy intervention — in conjunction with conventional treatments like chemotherapy and radiation — not only diminished symptoms typically associated with cancer such as pain, fatigue and anxiety, but also enhanced life expectancy. The study, its authors said, was based on the belief that “the creative process involved in the making of art is healing and life-enhancing. It is used to help patients, or their families, increase awareness of self, cope with symptoms, and adapt to stressful and traumatic experiences.”
It all started with the first step for me, Jackie Peach, over 10 years ago when I attended an art class. I was lucky enough to have a great teacher who encouraged us to try different styles, and that is how I started paint pouring. It was a sanctuary for me, therapeutic and so addictive. Whilst focused on what’s transpiring before you, its difficult to think of anything else, and when I'm paint pouring I treat it as a little serendipitous sojourn into my imagination.
Today, I'm lucky enough to be an artist and a teacher and my passion is now to share the art of paint pouring especially to those who have spent much of their life looking after others!
Perth Artist Workshops are an easy introduction into the wonderful world of paint pouring. This technique requires no previous experience or the need to be able to draw.
Workshops are 3 hours duration or a full day depending on what you book, with all materials supplied for you, including morning tea. All you have to do is show up! Participants enjoy a small class size (limited to five people per session) so I can give each participant personal tutelage and guidance. I will provide you with step-by-step instruction to demonstrate the paint pouring technique and you will be encouraged to experiment. It’s a safe and inspiring environment where you discover the joy of creating your own art.
I offer both beginner artist classes and intermediate workshops at my home studio in Perth and I can also bring mobile Perth Artist Workshops to your home or venue which also includes all materials. New workshop dates are always being added, so be sure to come back and check for the next one that fits your schedule so you can make a booking.
If you're feeling hesitant, whatever the reason may be, just give me a call and I can answer any questions you may have.
Award-winning Artist, Painter, Teacher
My workshops are based in the CBD of Perth, but I also offer mobile art workshops. Paint Pouring is my specialty as an award-winning artist, and I have added to this passion by teaching this technique to curious and budding artists and helping people find a long-lasting therapeutic method of taking time to themselves.
Please feel free to view my work.
"Jackie’s patient tutoring without taking over, encouragement to do your own individual piece made this enjoyable. Old memories urged up. Was wonderful to work in such a relaxed atmosphere. Definitely good value for money and not only would I recommend the workshop but discussed Jackie doing a one day tutoring event."
"We LOVED the full day multi media class! We learned SO much and had such a great time!!! We finished the day with several fabulous paint pour art pieces that we can actually hang on the wall. With Jackie's extensive expertise, kind and welcoming nature, we felt confident to just let loose and get creative with it all!!! We will definitely come back again as it was so much fun!!! Thanks Jackie!!"
"Wow is all I can say. Loved Jackie's paint pouring and techniques classes. So inspirational. Jackie is great teacher and you get one to one attention. Loved her sense of humour, making painting fun. I was little scared to put paint to canvas, but she was patient and encouraging and I created some great canvases, so happy. I encourage everyone to give it a go."
My Paint Pouring workshops have a 5 out of 5 rating on Facebook. Thank you again to those who took that first step by booking a workshop, and for taking the time to leave such wonderful reviews. I know your time is valuable, and I'm humbled that my workshops have given people an escape and a refuge, as well as an opportunity for self-indulgence.
100% Satisfaction Guaranteed
You are fully protected by my 100% Satisfaction-Guarantee. If you aren't delighted by the experience of the workshop, just let me know and I will send you a prompt refund.
The workshops are held in Queens Park, Perth. Full details of the studio location will be provided upon enquiry or booking.
Give me a call on 0404 987 424 and we can discuss your schedule and availability. I promise you, you will leave the class feeling energised.
I used to feel the same way. I encourage you to take a leap of faith and attend your first class. It is a safe and non-judgmental environment.
You can of course sign up for a workshop with a friend, but the classes are also held with 4 other like-minded people. You will feel welcome regardless of whether you attend with a friend or come as an individual.
The Budding Artist’s Workshop (Beginner’s Paint Pouring Workshop) is $165pp for a 3-hour session including all materials and morning tea.
Contact me on 0404 987 424 and we can have a chat about suitable dates.
P.S.: Workshops can get booked out quickly, so if you haven't already, jump on this opportunity now to finally start doing something special for yourself. I hope you can join me in the Art of Taking Time for Yourself.
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